Okay so at the 11th hour a company in NZ is flying of around to use to get a package together. Puts another week of indecision into our already stressed out lives but if I don't in talk I couldn't bear the "what ifs"
1 year, 4 months ago.
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Go. Sometimes the 11th hour is the right time.
1 year, 4 months ago by CaffeineJunky
I'm with caffeinejunky. Go! And good luck mate
1 year, 4 months ago by angelmartinez
The stress of this is making life really really hard. One day we decide to get on a plane only to have an email or call from this particular company with yet another carrot.
I've accepted their invitation to "pop down" for lunch and a chat (it's like an hour by plane or 7 hours in the car pop down) on Monday and so far it sounds like they have all the goodies in place, but whilst not wanting to leave NZ the thing we are starting to realise is that the opportunities here in NZ for my skills are limited.
That and family are putting a fair degree of pressure on us to head North also.
Sorry to vent almost continually on here for the last 10 days, but the cathartic release right now is pretty well keeping me sane.
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
@sheryl4321 thank you for those kind words. We know from experience that I will always land feet first. We may get to the and dangle over first, endure all sorts of nastiness or hardships but everything comes right eventually - it has to. It's true that nice guys don't finish first, but they always finish.
But my God another week of this!?
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
Don't be sorry, if my records are right, I have been drunk more than a fort night on here and people listened. What is the voice in your deep gut say? Stick with that voice and do not look back. Maybe this is your 'letting go' like I have mine.
1 year, 4 months ago by CaffeineJunky
@cj My heart says stay in NZ, my head says the UK affords so many opportunities for work & family, my gut says "those baked beans for lunch aren't agreeable"
I've (read we've) decided that I am no longer talking to other companies in NZ but that I have to go talk to these guys on Monday. If the job is fantastic, the prospects solid and benefits realistic then we will have to talk, but if it falls on any of those hurdles then bring on the flights back North.
So for now I have to fill 4 days with trivial stuff and mindless banter/moaning/chatting before I can even think about the decision. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
@cj upside is I've just discovered 3 bottles of Absolut Vodka lurking. Might be an interesting 4 days.
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
I would drink with you but I an three weeks sober. And my marriage depends on my sobriety. But you are speaking my language with vodka.
1 year, 4 months ago by CaffeineJunky
I think it's been one day at a time for all of us. Sometimes I feel like another day just isn't worth it. CJ, I wish you well. It is a tough decision to do so. My husband is a month without a drink..which was beginning to damage us as a couple. I am proud of him and proud of you.
1 year, 4 months ago by computerwheelie
Thx Sheryl, it's been a tough day.
1 year, 4 months ago by computerwheelie
Thanks guys, this has been my lesson so far, marriage depends on both people and when one party isn't happy, nobody is. Bringing it back to Barney, what does your wife say?
1 year, 4 months ago by CaffeineJunky
@cj don't feel a need to bring it back over here girl :o0 This is what I need (no not knowing that there are people out there who have or are having it worse) but the distraction.
We are a surprisingly unified front on most things, this included. She thinks what I think and vice versa (I guess after 20 years that's inevitable to some degree).
There are some big advantages in the UK from her side. She is an only child with a widowed mother - so there's one emotional pull. Gabby would also like to do teacher training and grandparents have already offered childcare - +2 for the UK.
But she also admits that I need to be happy in my work as an unhappy Barney makes for an unhappy home - and straight back to you then my dear...
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
@computerwheelie sorry it has been a rough day and nothing I say can really make it better. Chin up.
1 year, 4 months ago by CaffeineJunky
Sorry guys - just realised my broadband went down and I hadn't had all the comments through.
@computerwheelie life is tough, but one day it'll all get better.
Also sorry for bringing up the demon drink there. I don't have an addictive bone in my body and as a rule don't drink much if at all. But they are just sitting there looking sad. @cj I think we're all proud of your efforts on this front.
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
Straight to me eh? My son has a broken finger because of my addiction to smoking, my oldest son is wanting to come down again, my husband and I have some major things to decide, and I am sitting here not drinking. My new job is awesome and busy at the same time. And I. am. not. drinking. Or smoking.
1 year, 4 months ago by CaffeineJunky
That's not fair - your son has a broken finger because he fell and hit his hand. It could have just as easily been a table, the floor or any other hard object.
You have obviously gone a long way to making #1 feel wanted.
ALL couples have heaps to work on / decide / battle through / etc...
You've got a great new job, albeit with AOL (I just had to, sorry)
AND to top this off you've now decided to give up smoking.
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
Being my totally insensitive self...a tune to for you http://tinyurl.com/ys7vev or maybe not. I say go but then you know where I'm coming from... Lots of karma being directed toward WGTN at moment. and a bit of caffine for the down days 2mrw too @ 1?
1 year, 4 months ago by fin
@fin fark - thought you were off the interwebs :o) and sure 1 sounds good
@everyone else - @fin is a close close friend so this made me giggle a lot.
1 year, 4 months ago by barneyc
Intemittant mental connection going on today....damn it gotta focus. Wonder if another shot will make the connectivity worse. At least I know I'll be awake until 2am.
1 year, 4 months ago by fin